in a real D/s relationship, there is no such thing as vice versa.
sexymama: start by reading through a lot of the articles found at
Submissive Loving. It's a good place to start. If you have any questions after that, feel free to PM me any time. (You may also want to PM galaxygirl, since I am sure she would be willing to help you out as well).
As lifestylers, we (galaxygirl and I) should be able to help you on your way.
Just keep in mind that D/s is a mindset, not a sexual position.