Okay, this is gonna be messy. Last year, at the age of 40, I found out I was adopted.
Shocking? Yes, a bit, but also hilariously funny (to me, anyway) I have an older brother, also adopted, and over the years we kidded one another how one of us or both of us were adopted.
Anyway, via the courts and a private investigator, I have found my birth mom. I know her name and I have her address. Now, she has indicated she wants NO contact with me. I'm respecting her wishes, for now, but would like to get medical information from her, since I have kids.
I don't want to disturb her current family situation. She married her husband in 1969 and they've been together ever since. I doubt I've come up in ANY converstation they may have had over the years. I've driven past her house and possibly saw either a half-sister or half-sister-in-law putting her kids in her car. What would you do?
Also, how would you feel if you found out your spouse/SO/mom or dad had another child somewhere? Would you be open to contact? Would it change your relationship with your SO? Just wondering.
Also, what are your opinions about me sending an anonymous holiday card with current family picture enclosed? Yeah, I'm goofy that way.
