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Sex on Tuesday: Slip Between the Cheeks
TUESDAY,
SEPTEMBER 2, 2003
Strangely clear in my memory is an episode of the British one-man show, Mr. Bean, in which a naked Rowan Atkinson ends up scurrying around a hotel with nothing but a few signs to preserve his dignity: "private" to shield the twig and berries, and "exit only" for the tush.
Amusing, yes, but I can't help but feel a twinge of sadness for Bean's poor, neglected prostate. While I certainly don't want to subject anyone to a lengthy reflection on Mr. Atkinson's anus, perhaps it's time we all take a moment to reflect on the back doors of the men we sleep with.
During a drunken conversation I had with a bunch of flaming heterosexuals, a guy silenced a round of butt-sex jokes by saying, "Look, I slept with a girl once who put these beads in my ass, and when I started to come, she pulled them out. I came so hard that, man, if any woman ever wants to put anything in my ass again, I'm all for it." Wise words.
The tissue of the anus itself and the surrounding area contains dense nerve endings and swells up during arousal—as do the labia, clitoris, and penis (I see this as our bodies' natural way of saying "touch me!"). Even if your partner isn't down with the idea of sending anything in the "out" door, if you lightly brush his anus with your fingertips during your next blow or hand job, he might surprise himself by craving more.
Any attempt to stimulate the anus generally goes off a lot better if the recipient is good and aroused first, and a gentle lubed massage, increasing in enthusiasm, is generally a good introduction if you plan to stick anything in.
For those seeking a more intense and intimate experience, male anal stimulation pretty much comes down to the prostate. This little nugget of sexual goodness, often referred to as the "male G-spot," is a gland that lies kind of between the penis and the rectum and plays a role in ejaculation.
All we really need to know here is that it provides intense waves of sexual pleasure to the recipient when pressed. It can be stimulated somewhat by pushing up on the perineum (that expanse of skin between the balls and anus) while a man is aroused, but the only way to get directly at this puppy is through the butt.
While a man is lying on his back, aroused, the prostate can be located by one or more well-lubed fingers inserted slowly and gently into the anus (palm up) and pressing towards his tummy. It generally feels kind of different from the surrounding area, a bit harder, and the male in question usually emits spectacular noises, which signals you're in the right place.
Many men describe sensations of frantically desperate pleasure, a sense of imminent explosion, or losing track of time and space at this point.
Contrary to popular belief, poo does not hang out right on the other side of your sphincter, but higher up in the bowels, well out of reach of the casually probing finger. This means you only need to worry about icky consequences if the probee feels the immediate need to poop.
For those who still feel a little funny immersing their fingers in the poop chute, latex gloves, finger cots (little condoms for your finger), or good ol' condoms put a reassuringly waterproof, disposable barrier between you and your loved one.
Squeamishness aside, such barriers are a very good idea for anyone planning an expedition. The rectum is made of very delicate tissue, and while the giver should always make sure his or her nails are nice and short and smooth, latex helps provide that extra easy glide touch. Also, LUBE LUBE LUBE LUBE LUBE. The rectum doesn't produce its own, and insufficient moisture can make an otherwise fantastic experience pinchy and unpleasant.
This column is too short, but future weeks will address more. For now, I highly recommend the Good Vibrations Web site magazine archive, which has an amazing series of articles specifically about anal stimulation for men. So check it out, have a chat with your partner, and get spelunking!
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Never tried it, mayhaps I will. Has anyone else tried this? What was your experiences? Good/bad/weird?