"...She was a compulsive liar and she was very manipulative. I usually never trust anyone but with her I decided to let my guard down and it was a mistake..."
"...She lives in a world of lies and deceptfulness. It seems to make her feel better about herself but it makes everyone around her miserable..."
Oh my God, I went through this experience 4 months ago. Actually since last November 2002. It all came to a head this past May 2003. I was really close friends with this girl. About a few months into it, I found out that she would lie. At first it was small things, but then I found out she lies compulsively, about almost everything.
She told me she was close to her family. God, her family hated her. She told me she would apologize about her lying to her friends about this trip they planned on going together which she bailed out on them at the last minute, and told them she had a job interview when she didn't.
She would also lie to her boyfriend about me and try to put us against one another. This girl would use her sister's credit card and rack up thousands of dollars and then somehow manage to have her sister pay for it! She would steal from her own sister!
Because she was good-looking, I guess guys were too stupid to know it or they didn't care. She had everything paid for. And when she was REALLY desperate, she would pretend to care about her dad and stop by to visit him. How pathetic is that!
When cops stopped by to investigate her little brother for some internet stuff, she told him that she didn't care what he did..."just don't get caught." Good sister huh?
I guess after I caught on to her lies and manipulations, I stopped all the "middle-men" talks, that is, I stopped believing what she told me about other people AND I stopped talking to her.
I learned a really painful lesson, that you get really screwed if you open up too much, too soon. Like your experience, this girl (I believe) grew up learning that lying will help her survive and get things in this world. Although I should hate her for what she has done and is doing, I feel more sorry for her.
Now all her "close girlfriends" know that she's a liar too. And they have remained distant. Really sad actually. She's just a "shell of looks and confidence" but underneath that facade are layers upon layers of low self-esteem, lies, deceit, manipulation, and loneliness.
Tragic because the people who were close to her were and are really great people. We just couldn't stand being around someone who lies all the time. I thought I could overlook that, but alas I couldn't. A compulsive liar is against everything sacred in friendships.
