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Old 09-01-2003, 10:41 AM   #23 (permalink)
rogue49
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As anyone who has met me I'm a conversationist (this can be called an understatement)

I have an opinion about everything under the sun.
However, most people don't want to talk about your opinion,
they want to talk about what they are thinking about.
Well this is where your opinions in everything comes into play,
but you don't express your opinion, but you use the same knowledge to express interest in THEIR views & thoughts.

Look at them as they talk about their thoughts
Ask interested questions to prompt them for more.
Interject with a few points and stories of your own.
But remember to sincerely listen to their thoughts.

This is not just an act, this is REAL interest in their interests & views.

See, conversation is a TWO way street.
This is not just about you, and what you are interested in.
The conversation may not be finished when you think you've said it all.
And although some might not be as "capable" as yourself intellectually,
EVERYONE has some view to express.

And when I say that it's TWO way street,
it means YOU have to participate also.
Being a "listener", means that you are giving everything in the conversation to them.
Believe it or not, although you are allowing them to express themselves,
you need to express yourself too, and give what you can back.

See, conversation is about SHARING
It means you give
and you get
You listen AND you talk.

And yes, this might be when you're not as interested in the subject as they are.
Because there are times when they might not be as interested in yours.

And why must you do this?
When you think it's waste of time and energy.

Because you are SHARING.
This is communication
This is socializing
This is interacting with other humans.

This is sharing your world with theirs,
because we are all here together
and ALL our experiences are valid.
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