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Memnoch · 08-31-2003, 11:41 PM

Passion. Passion is the key to charisma. I don't mean to sound arrogant, but passion is about 80 percent of what has gotten me as far along in my life as I have come. Don't make it a conversation - make it a convention! I kid you not, I have made people excited about spinach, simply because I love the vegetable so much. I had an entire room calling back at me as I yelled "Gimme an S!" ("S!"), etc. You just have to let the person know that you care. This passion, this love, this interest sparks desire on many levels - on the basest of levels, it's viril. Being lively, loud, even belligerent at times can spark arousal - "If he's this passionate about spinach, what's he going to be like when we're in bed?" That's probably not going to be a *conscious* thought, especially not on the first date, but I can guarantee you it will be hovering just below the surface. Secondly, the person is going to be thinking "If he's this interested in spinach, what's it going to be like when he starts caring about me?" Letting a woman know, directly or through your actions, how much care and interest you are capable of taking into her is almost never a bad thing. Thirdly, and if nothing else, it makes for great conversation. Just remember to include her. Don't preach about your passion, whatever it is - ask her questions. "I love football. I've got the rulebook memorized, I can tell you every single Super Bowl winner from the first till now. Do you like football? Who's your favorite player? Have you ever been to a game? Isn't it exciting? I get into the hype and the atmosphere so much, I usually don't have a voice for about a week afterwards - and it's great!" See how that works? It doesn't matter what the topic is, so long as you can find even the biggest stretch when it comes to common ground. And if you can't find common ground, the trick is to make that person passionate about what you're passionate about. Hype it up, and be truthful about it. That's the most important - be honest. Be able to follow up what you just said with an example later on. Take her to a game sometime, and make sure you *know* that you can get her into it, or that at the very least, you can show her a good time while you're there.

Passion. It's the key to everything.

08-31-2003, 11:41 PM	#20 (permalink)
Memnoch Insane Location: Land of milk and honey - Wisconsin	Passion. Passion is the key to charisma. I don't mean to sound arrogant, but passion is about 80 percent of what has gotten me as far along in my life as I have come. Don't make it a conversation - make it a convention! I kid you not, I have made people excited about spinach, simply because I love the vegetable so much. I had an entire room calling back at me as I yelled "Gimme an S!" ("S!"), etc. You just have to let the person know that you care. This passion, this love, this interest sparks desire on many levels - on the basest of levels, it's viril. Being lively, loud, even belligerent at times can spark arousal - "If he's this passionate about spinach, what's he going to be like when we're in bed?" That's probably not going to be a conscious thought, especially not on the first date, but I can guarantee you it will be hovering just below the surface. Secondly, the person is going to be thinking "If he's this interested in spinach, what's it going to be like when he starts caring about me?" Letting a woman know, directly or through your actions, how much care and interest you are capable of taking into her is almost never a bad thing. Thirdly, and if nothing else, it makes for great conversation. Just remember to include her. Don't preach about your passion, whatever it is - ask her questions. "I love football. I've got the rulebook memorized, I can tell you every single Super Bowl winner from the first till now. Do you like football? Who's your favorite player? Have you ever been to a game? Isn't it exciting? I get into the hype and the atmosphere so much, I usually don't have a voice for about a week afterwards - and it's great!" See how that works? It doesn't matter what the topic is, so long as you can find even the biggest stretch when it comes to common ground. And if you can't find common ground, the trick is to make that person passionate about what you're passionate about. Hype it up, and be truthful about it. That's the most important - be honest. Be able to follow up what you just said with an example later on. Take her to a game sometime, and make sure you know that you can get her into it, or that at the very least, you can show her a good time while you're there. Passion. It's the key to everything. __________________ Doing my best not to end up like Kathleen Chang.