Find something you have in common. Failing that, you could always just let your date ramble on about something THEY know. Preferably if it's something you're interested in. Or something that one of you are passionate about (without getting into taboo subjects like religion/politics).
Failing that, you can usually get interesting conversations about people's taste in movies or music. It's lame at first to ask someone their favorite album, but you might find something about their personality when you do. That can be tricky and it's not for everyone, but sometimes if you're stuck anyway, take a shot. Ask them what they did last weekend, gives you an idea of their hobbies/interests. Another tricky one to introduce but one that could bear fruit.
It's hard to explain. There's just SOMETHING. Even if you suck at it, there is probably someone out there that you would feel comfortable talking to and with whom your conversations would flow freely.
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