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Been there, have the t-shirt. I always said I never would because I would be a wuss and tell on myself and then I would be worried about him leaving.
Well. That was the first 10 years. Then our marriage just went to pot. Neither of us asked the other what was going on. I did mention that it would be nice to be communicating. But we didn't get far. I could have pushed it further, but I didn't want to.
There was a message on the answering machine about flight arrangements. It was his friend. I asked what it was about and he said nothing. Now, mind you, we go on seperate vacations quite a bit.
5 days later, he tells me he is going to Vegas for a car race. Upon some grilling I found out this was planned a month ago, but he just go the okay from work. He was leaving the next day! I explained to him that he could have let me know earlier, especially when I asked him what the msg was about on the flight arrangements.
After 15 minutes of him saying, but I just got the approval from work, it finally dawned on him (that it dawned on him or to finally give up) and he said that he should have said something sooner.
I was SOOO pissed. Later that night I sent an encrypted msg to my ex boyfriend (the one before the guy I married). The next morning I woke up and thought 'OH SHIT! I SENT IT!'
Anyway... hubby left at 3 p.m. and I was in the ex's arms by 8 pm. I felt strange being with someone else after 16 years, but that was about it. A week later I realized that life was just not worth it to keep living with someone that you did not love or communicate with and I left. I"ll be officially divorced in 2 weeks. I personally, cannot wait!
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