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If I read this right, the "cheating" occurred when you two had just started out as fuck buddies. I'm not sure I would say this is a complete trust breaking issue. However where there is smoke there is fire. If she was not opening up herself to you before this, I think she might have some trust issues herself. I fully believe that for true love to exist between people they both have to love themselves first, and if she only opened up to you after an ultimatum, I'm not sure we can say that she loves herself enough to be in this kind of relationship. The "cheating" (especially with women) is usually a sign of some deep-seated emotional problems (sometimes just immaturity) that need to be worked out first.
I completely trust my wife. She is always where she says she will be, and I know she didn't cheat on me sexually prior to marriage (she was a virgin). The love we have is passionate yet comfortable. I know what you are going through. I had an intense sexual/live-in relationship with a girl when I was a sophomore in college. However she was a habitual liar as well. She claimed she had never slept with her previous boyfriend while we were dating at the early stages yet her stories didn't add up. Later on, we came close to getting engaged. I happened to move home during the summer and was coming back in 3 months. She ended up cheating on me with a friend and broke up with me prior to telling me what she had done. She had some hardcore issues she needed to deal with nor was I ready for that relationship at that point in my life.
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