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cj2112 · 08-27-2003, 07:02 PM

First let me post a disclaimer, this in no way is the only solution and may or may not be the right solution, it is simply what "I" suggest.

It is my belief that without three components love can not exist. Those components are as follows:

1. Trust. Do you trust this person implicitly, can you take their word as absolute truth, can you let them see all of who you are without fear of being judged?

2. Respect. Pretty self explanatory there i think.

3. Admiration. Do you admire the person, when you look at them do you truly admire the person they are, their character, are they somebody you would be proud to have raise your children?

If those three things aren't mutual, then you do not have an intimate loving relationship. I think that every (and yes I know that is a BOLD statement) failed marriage can be traced back to the lack of one or more of those three elements on the part of one or both partners.

I'm not gonna tell you how to handle the situation, but I will tell you to ask yourself if those three things truly exist, then act accordingly.
I hope that things work out for the best for you. My pm box is always available if ya need to talk w/ somebody.

08-27-2003, 07:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
cj2112 Unbelievable Location: Grants Pass OR	First let me post a disclaimer, this in no way is the only solution and may or may not be the right solution, it is simply what "I" suggest. It is my belief that without three components love can not exist. Those components are as follows: 1. Trust. Do you trust this person implicitly, can you take their word as absolute truth, can you let them see all of who you are without fear of being judged? 2. Respect. Pretty self explanatory there i think. 3. Admiration. Do you admire the person, when you look at them do you truly admire the person they are, their character, are they somebody you would be proud to have raise your children? If those three things aren't mutual, then you do not have an intimate loving relationship. I think that every (and yes I know that is a BOLD statement) failed marriage can be traced back to the lack of one or more of those three elements on the part of one or both partners. I'm not gonna tell you how to handle the situation, but I will tell you to ask yourself if those three things truly exist, then act accordingly. I hope that things work out for the best for you. My pm box is always available if ya need to talk w/ somebody.