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Wow, difficult situation! I think everyone has done a good job giving advice so far. The one other thing to keep in mind is that you cannot change someone! You can only change yourself.
Obviously communication and asking for what you need are 100% acceptable -- but in the long run you are only in control of you. You will need to decide if the "issues" are small enough to not worry about, or if they are things you are just not willing to live without. (And after an 11-year marriage that was basically sexless, believe me, it gets harder and harder to live without!)
You are young. There are a lot of terrific men out there who are more than willing -- even wanting -- to please woman sexually and in other ways. IF you love this guy, great, stick it out. If you are questioning, maybe a temporary seperation would help answer some questions. And if you are not in love, it doesn't sound like things will change, so why not get out now? Best of luck to you!
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