you know, i just broke up with someone i care for deeply and it seems almost identical to your story..
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i guess i kept waiting for things to get better - and they would sometimes - but i find myself telling myself that it will be better when he gets a better job, when we are out of classes, when we have more money....you know what i'm saying. it's just hard too because we fight a lot about stuff - i feel like he doesn't like me as much as he says he does (even though i know it's dumb) because he is so interested in other things and spends a lot of time on those hobbies. i just feel like i have fallen in the ranks of interest in his life and i feel like he is taking me for granted.
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it sounds like you deserve better than what you have.. but will it ever realllly get better? when you focus on future points and waiting for 'things to get better', it is like chasing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. complications will always arise bcos situations are never perfect and you find yourself dangling 'something better' out of arms reach.
as for joining his hobbies, it sounds like you need to compromise eachothers interests together more. i don't think its fair to *join his hobbies* as if your life or the relationship is centered around him. find some way to integrate common interests. and like angela said, if that doesn't work.... what's the point really? it seems like compatibility, compromise, and the lack of communication are at issue here... evaluate what you WANT from the relationship, or *a* relationship and see if it adds up here. goodluck and be strong
