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Originally posted by guns&roses
... i came into this relationship directly - after another relationship that was very serious and i was confused and didn't know what to do...so i panicked and broke up with him and started dating my current man, whom i was very good friends with. ... i lost a wonderful man who did do all those things througout our entire relationship because i got scared of the commitment and lost him...i am still trying to deal with that....
... i am hesitant to make a decision to break up because he is a big part of my life and i like him being there for me but it feels like we have to be in a relationship for us to still be at least friends. i also don't know if i can handle being alone. ...
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Take a look at just the part I quoted here.
1. You had a boyfriend who was wonderful
2. You have a good friend now who you are trying to keep a relationship with
3. He is a big part of your life... but do you love him?
4. You aren't sure if you can handle being alone
5. You lost your previous boyfriend because of fear of committment...
Maybe the problem is that you are still in love with the previous guy... Maybe your current guy is a good friend you are having sex with (although you aren't even doing that any more).
If you want to stay with the current guy, stop being so passive. Don't worry about initiating sex all the time. It's Ok to initiate sex. Also, join him in his interests have fun with him doing the stuff he likes.
If none of this works, if you can't ignite some passion and you don't have common interests, then... what's the point?
Now, what about boyfriend number 1? Can you go back to him and tell him you made a terrible mistake?