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Collide,
It doesn't sound like he's treating her like a fuck buddy (3 times a week is hardly excessive), and there's no evidence that he's not paying attention to "her all-emcompassing self "...just that she doesn't want sex (although bjs and hjs sound like sex to me...).
I would do the following:
1) Do an internal check. Is there anything that you're doing that she may not be happy with--like the fact that you're moving away? That sort of uncertainty can have a huge effect on the sex drive, and isn't unreasonable.
2) Do an external check. Talk with her...directly confront the problem as much as she is willing.
3) If her answers are unsatisfying, lay it out for yourself: is the status quo (or whatever you get out of your conversation with her) worth it? Will you be happy with the status quo?
4) Lay your conclusion out to her, and let both of you make informed choices about where to go from there. That will lead to less confusion all around, and make whatever happens less painful.
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