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If you absolutely must try to keep her - and you can honestly say it is love and devotion and not infatuation and possessiveness, then you need to "not let her go" (not in a stalker way). Personal experience is that if is worth saving and you make that decision, that you need to show her that she means the world to you. If she leaves, chase after her and swear your love and that you can't live without her, etc. I have done this and it worked for me. You need to really change though, to be more attentive and caring and give her what she wants. Communication may be the problem. She might want things from you she hasn't said and things about you might piss her off and she hasn't told you. Any two people living together for a while can easily fall into only seeing the negative side of the other and dwelling on the things that piss you off about the other person. It takes a lot of work to overcome this.
On the other hand, don't play the fool. Your description of the situation leads me to consider the possibility that she is immature and not ready for this committed relationship. If that is really the case then she is going to leave regardless. The only question would be whether she fools around on you before or after she leaves. I would say it would be better if you cut your losses and don't have to subject yourself to a cheating spouse. I would consider getting out. Not easy and you will be depressed and miserable for a while, but that will pass. You don't want to wake up in 5 years and find you have wasted your life with a horrible relationship and she is cheating on you. If this happens after you have kids it is a disaster. You are young and can absorb this bad times and move on and start again. I couldn't imagine an "open" marriage if I loved the woman. Just a recipe for disaster and then you get aides and die.
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