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Excellent responses!!! very nice and educational, even for me.
I can add this. Before I had a concept of the tying, bondage and power-play realm that I am presently and for ever more am part of, I can tell you about when this type of behavior and introduction by me to another, during my earlier days.
We did do very mild restraining as part of role playing, once once or twice. I have crossed dressed in one manner or another now close to 27 years.
She understood that my(dress dressing) was part of who I was. Closeted if you will, always functioning in a caring, loving devotion and trusting manner towards her. She wanted to understand me and I her, so I introduced her to latex, leather and yes even lace, for she was a very simple(if you will) beautiful lady who had never thought about these things, and neither did her one or two intimate relationships before me. I helped her to understand she could trust me with anything. And along the way, we flirted with little bits of the forbidden. Yet even with the struggled that she had in her life, she trusted me( a man) to tie her hands up and we had the full understanding that this was a game for us, and extensions of all the things we spoke about and not some freaking perverted, harmful actions(which she was taught). the person I speak of was not some young naive lady, but someone in her 30s with many hurdle to overcome in her life.
We always treated each other with kindness and understanding, and the two times we did this type of thing, it was out of trying and enjoying some added little zest things. Bottom line, its all about communication, if that can't be done freely, no one should ever be given this kind of power, even in play!
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LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC"
"Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad"
Quality is for those who know
what they want and are at peace with what they have.
"S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker
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