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Kurant · 08-15-2003, 10:45 PM

The title may be misleading, but just bear with me..

About 6 months ago I met this female at work. She's outgoing,a nd just an absolute joy to be with. Probably the coolest woman I've ever met, family orintated, doesn't go out and party all the time, honest, etc.. etc..

I'm married. She knows I'm married, she tells me everything, we are the "best" of friends. But when I see her, and hang out with her, it just makes me see how awsome she is. Is it possible to be "best friends?" I mean, really, we are right now, we share everything with each other, go places together, talka lot, etc.. etc.. Things friends do. I still have those feelings toward her though. It's hard to sit around, and hear how she feels about this guy, or that guy. Or tell me how her night went with so and so... I feel like I need to seperate myself from her, I'm worried if I do that, I could lose one of my best friends. Married life is awsome, my wife is a joy, and I love her very, very much. I've never had a temptation like this in the 7 years I've been married, or really in my entire life.

Yes, it may be wrong to have thoughts like this when your married, but it's human emotion. I've never tried to make an advance on her, or even told her how I felt. It woulden't be right. It's becoming more difficult though. Not really sure what to do. I want to remain friends, and that's it. But emotions are a very strong thing, and it's becoming harder and harder the more I see her. I want to seperate myself, but I don't want to lose such a great person in my life.

08-15-2003, 10:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
Kurant Junkie Location: Don't worry about it.	Need to seperate, but worried... The title may be misleading, but just bear with me.. About 6 months ago I met this female at work. She's outgoing,a nd just an absolute joy to be with. Probably the coolest woman I've ever met, family orintated, doesn't go out and party all the time, honest, etc.. etc.. I'm married. She knows I'm married, she tells me everything, we are the "best" of friends. But when I see her, and hang out with her, it just makes me see how awsome she is. Is it possible to be "best friends?" I mean, really, we are right now, we share everything with each other, go places together, talka lot, etc.. etc.. Things friends do. I still have those feelings toward her though. It's hard to sit around, and hear how she feels about this guy, or that guy. Or tell me how her night went with so and so... I feel like I need to seperate myself from her, I'm worried if I do that, I could lose one of my best friends. Married life is awsome, my wife is a joy, and I love her very, very much. I've never had a temptation like this in the 7 years I've been married, or really in my entire life. Yes, it may be wrong to have thoughts like this when your married, but it's human emotion. I've never tried to make an advance on her, or even told her how I felt. It woulden't be right. It's becoming more difficult though. Not really sure what to do. I want to remain friends, and that's it. But emotions are a very strong thing, and it's becoming harder and harder the more I see her. I want to seperate myself, but I don't want to lose such a great person in my life.