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Originally posted by Konichiwaneko
a much as you are stereotyping women you are stereotyping the men they are with.
Sometimes you only see the negative of the guy they are with, but she may have seen something about him that he has only exposed to her. They have a connection.
Everyone can be a jerk if you come to a conclusion about them.
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Point well taken. However, as some of the others have mentioned, sometimes it IS about the women's low-esteem. I have several female friends who are exactly like the Jennifer (the massuese) that Vyk described. On the exterior, this woman is the picture of confidence and beauty. But underneath, she is constantly battling her own demons and poor self-esteem.
What you mention is also true. But I would argue that these women fell in love with "the idea of what these men were like". In other words, the person they "connected with" has over the years changed into this asshole/monster/loser. These women now believe that this assholeness is only a phase and since they have invested so much time, energy, and emotional committment into the relationship already, it is very hard for them to let go. Some people, MEN and WOMEN, would rather be with someone who hurts them (emotionally, physically, etc) than to be alone.
