As an "older" member of tfp, I have raised 3 teenage boys already. The key for me was to talk about the difference between porn and reality. I wanted their first time to be special and well thought out -- not just an easy "lay." 2 of the 3 managed to pull that off! They all seem to have a healthy attitude about sex and human sexuality in general. They like "real" woman and are not into the "porn star/twiggy with big breast" look. Most importantly, they do not view woman as "sex objects" and we are able to talk openly about their sexual experiences. I enjoy how close we are as a result of our openness. (They even enjoy hearing that I have a good sex life with my new bf -- no freaking out that "mom does it."  )
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If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god
It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.
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