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I hate to quote the old cliche from Eleanor Roosevelt about "nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent" but look, I've just gone and done it.
Part of the issue is learning to recognize that whatever these people said to you, you believed. Kids teased you, your parents were assholes (sorry - that's the worst), and you didn't know any better so you believed them. That's fine, because you were a kid, but now you're an adult and you're still carrying around these other children's opinions of you like they're the truth. Trying to be better than everyone is just playing the same game - you're still trapped inside their definition of you, trying desperately to get out. You don't believe for a minute that you're better than them, that's why you have to try so hard to prove otherwise.
I think skysooner's advice to simply do your best and recognize the fulfillment in that is good advice. You might also sit down and look at what's important to you. Part of an "inferiority complex" is living by other peoples' values, and falling short of them in your own mind if not in reality. Look at what qualities are important to you, and strive to cultivate those in yourself. Use those as your yardstick for how you're doing. If you're not 100% perfect, it's okay because you're human. The important part is that you are living by your own standards and trying to be the best you can be on your own terms, not on someone else's.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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