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Pellaz · 08-06-2003, 11:09 AM

What defines a "good marriage"? For me, it's friendship. I married my best friend, and I couldn't even begin to imagine a marriage where I hadn't, although I see it all the time

Is there a "one right person" for each of us? The worlds a big place, with near-infinite possibilities. Could I have been happy in my life married to someone else? Probably, but I'd be a different person in a different relationship. For the person that I am now, there is only one right person, though.

How do you decide when to get married? Circumstances dictated in part the time we got married(not pregnancy). That and it felt right, and it was a well discussed topic.

What are you (or what should you be) willing to do to keep it? Pretty much anything imo. Hopefully when you marry another person, you married someone who sees the world the same that you do, which makes it much easier to workthings out. Doesn't mean you should be a doormat, though.

Under what circumstances would you consider breaking up? For me, I think it would have to be proven trends that are going to continue no matter what I do. I'd probably not leave my wife if she cheated on me once, but if it was going to be repeated throughout our marriage, she'd be on the curb.

What advice do you have for all of the never-married folks on TFP? Be patient, don't rush, and make sure you are both getting married for the same reason, and understand all the consequences thereof.

I've been married 3 years in November, got married when I was 21 and my wife 19...a very young marriage, with no regrets and fairly supportive families.

Edit:forgot the personal info

08-06-2003, 11:09 AM	#3 (permalink)
Pellaz Addict Location: Texas	What defines a "good marriage"? For me, it's friendship. I married my best friend, and I couldn't even begin to imagine a marriage where I hadn't, although I see it all the time Is there a "one right person" for each of us? The worlds a big place, with near-infinite possibilities. Could I have been happy in my life married to someone else? Probably, but I'd be a different person in a different relationship. For the person that I am now, there is only one right person, though. How do you decide when to get married? Circumstances dictated in part the time we got married(not pregnancy). That and it felt right, and it was a well discussed topic. What are you (or what should you be) willing to do to keep it? Pretty much anything imo. Hopefully when you marry another person, you married someone who sees the world the same that you do, which makes it much easier to workthings out. Doesn't mean you should be a doormat, though. Under what circumstances would you consider breaking up? For me, I think it would have to be proven trends that are going to continue no matter what I do. I'd probably not leave my wife if she cheated on me once, but if it was going to be repeated throughout our marriage, she'd be on the curb. What advice do you have for all of the never-married folks on TFP? Be patient, don't rush, and make sure you are both getting married for the same reason, and understand all the consequences thereof. I've been married 3 years in November, got married when I was 21 and my wife 19...a very young marriage, with no regrets and fairly supportive families. Edit:forgot the personal info __________________ " ' Big Mouth. Remember it took three of you to kill me. A god, a boy, and, last and least, a hero.' " Last edited by Pellaz; 08-06-2003 at 12:58 PM..