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I don't know if I'd describe this as a conflict of interest so much as a warring of impulses.
Impulse 1: get into her pants
Impulse 2: help her figure out her life
Impulse 3: use helping her figure out her life to get into her pants
I think impulse 3 is the one that gets you into trouble, since it makes you feel slimy. The other two are fine and honorable, in and of themselves.
I'd say your impulse to help her figure out her life is a trifle paternalistic. You're free to offer advice, but she's also free not to take it. You can't "mold" her into the perfect little college student, but you can offer her your perspective as a concerned person.
And your impulse to get into her pants is completely understandable, although somewhat complicated by her "kinda seeing some guy").
If you're worried about her becoming dependent on you because you offer her advice, or sleeping with you out of gratitude or something, well that's just silly. I'm sure you want to help her just because you're a nice person, but you also want to help her as a way of staying close to her and maybe deepening the relationship into something romantic.
None of that is really a problem, IMHO. But I think if you're not truly interested in being with her exactly the way she is, you should chalk this one up to friendship and let her find her own path.
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