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I think anybody who (apologies for the gradschool speak here) occupies a space of liminal identity threatens peoples' desire to categorize and define other people. You see it with people of mixed race, and you see it with bisexuals. Like it or not, what's considered sexually attractive these days is still largely based on heterosexual male desire. Bisexual women have it easier because of the whole girl-on-girl fantasy that's been talked to death around here. That still fits into the largely male-defined repertoire of sexual desire: men can watch and get turned on, even if they don't participate, so it's still all about the hetero male fantasy. Bisexual men threaten that becuase they don't fit into that hetero male fantasy world. You're seen as either a threat or irrelevant. However, over in the ladies lounge there was a thread about whether watching two men was a turn-on for women, and you'd be surprised how many women think it's incredibly sexy.
I don't know if things will ever change - if humans will ever get better at accepting people who are neither here-nor-there, who don't fit into a binary worldview. I hope so. I think a tolerance for ambiguity is one of the hallmarks of higher thinking.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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