|
(This is my first post anywhere on TFP).
Role reversal won't help him much. He's still thinking with a male brain. I think he needs us to put our female brains into the mind of his wife. Guys get jealous about different things than women do.
If it were me, I would be jealous if the friend was seeing a part of my husband that I was not.
"... What cute things is he doing or talking about with her and not me? ... Does she bring out something in him that I don't?..."
On the other hand, I understand the need to have another friend. For one thing, he could use someone to talk to about me (both the good and the bad).
If it were me, I would want to know about it. I would ask that he not keep secrets (including her secrets) from me.
I would want the "inside track". If he shares *her* secrets with *me*, I would feel a lot better about him confiding in her.
He (or the friend) might not think that's fair, *but*, I'm the wife. Any secrets he has belong to me (sort of like community property).
Finally, if the friendship continues, the sexual attraction will eventually develop. If says he wasn't attracted to her, even after several months, I would be suspicious.
Actually, I would be less jealous of them having sex than being friends. It takes a long time to get good at sex with another person. I wouldn't feel threatened because I know how to do things to him that took a long time to figure out.
Just my $0.02.
|