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I just wish it never happened.
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I completely understand that feeling. One of the more significant relationships in my past... the first time we slept together, she began crying uncontrollably afterwards and eventually said it had been a long time since anyone had been that nice to her. I'm thinking... "huh??" The last guy she'd been with had done things like slip into a bedroom with her at a party (she thought, to have sex with her)... tie her to the bed, then had his friends all come in and fuck her. You wanna talk about issues?
But you can't make those things un-happen. You decide if it's something you want to deal with and if so, just forge ahead and roll with the punches. Be understanding, don't press those borders too hard and help her when she asks for help. It may take her a long time to be in a place where she's ready to be helped with it and you can't have control over that. As always... communicate as much as possible. The next time it comes up in conversation, ask her about seeing someone to talk about it; ask her if she's given it any more thought.