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Originally posted by Donkeypuncher
but... wasn't he saying he pretty much just wanted to get laid? So... you're saying it's ok to mislead a girl into thinking he wants a relationship just so he can get laid? That doesn't seem right at all.
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OH GOD NO! Sorry! That's not what I was trying to say at all.....no no no no no!
I was just pointing out that the reason why some women might not be interested after the first date is because they realize that's all he wants. There isn't anything wrong with that and yes, I too believe in being upfront with people as far as what you want (and why). It's just that if iloveredheads was a little confused as to why they may seem cold afterwards....it could be that they aren't looking for just sex, a one-night stand but something more. This is why I said he should treat them as someone he wants to get to know instead of just someone to lay. If you want to just get laid....then find a girl that wants to do just that and there will be no hard feelings the next day. If you want someone who wants to be with you after the first date...then treat them with respect - not just as a body to screw.
Someone said once (I'm sorry I don't remember which TFP member it was) that instead of looking for someone you want to go to sleep with....look for someone you want to wake up with. That makes a LOT of sense to me!