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Old 07-10-2003, 12:21 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Originally posted by lafemmefatale
appearance does play an important role nonetheless, it's not in starving to be thin and all that...but a woman who is unkempt, with poor hygiene, messy hair [unless thats the trend] and looks absolutely dishevelled cannot possibly attract anyone but flies. Whereareas a woman who dresses smart, keeps fit, eats well, naturally demonstrates that she has a perfecctly healthy body image...albeit no perfect, she is more likely to be a in control, responsible, organized, civilized well behaving woman who has enough stamina for a good romp too once in a while [ this goes for men too]. So appearances do play an important role in giving a glimpse into the person's personality, while its not trying to keep up with the latest trends, it is an important element of knowing the other person.
There's no point in denying that we are all guilty of "lookism," but there's a difference between what you're describing, lff, which is just taking care of yourself and looking presentable, and the obsession that many people in our society have developed with looks.

You talk about "keeping fit" - I'm smack dab in the middle of the health BMI range, 5'1 and about +/- 115-120 lbs, I lift weights, I'm cardiovascularly fit, I wash my hair and even occasionally wear makeup. And there's no way if I were on the dating market these days I'd get a second look from most people - I'm pear-shaped with A-cup breasts, and there's no way I could ever ever approach the "ideal" that is held up as the standard today, not if I ate salads till I turned green and lived at the gym.

We all see these perfect little underweight bodies that look like 8 year old boys with boob jobs and think that's normal and achievable. We are all willing victims of a culture that takes an impossible body image, displaying the same 1% of people who are deemed attractive by the media, and shoves it in our face 24/7 in order to make us feel inadequate and buy more stuff to make us look like those people.

Well I for one give up. I have stopped watching most television, I don't go to the titty board nearly as often as I used to because it just depresses me (unless there are SuicideGirls to see , I have a collection of images of beauty throughout the ages that I look at to remind myself that it's all made up, and fortunately I have a husband who loves my squeezable butt just the way it is. Pass the buttered popcorn please!
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