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pangavan · 06-26-2003, 10:33 PM

This relationship doesnt have to be doomed, but you need to be honest with yourself and keep your eyes open. Putting the relationship on hold will be kind of tricky because she will think you just want to screw around, no matter what you tell her(its a girl thing). Be prepared for both of you to have doubts...you will be in a new, exciting situation with alot more freedom, and she will be lonely with guys,(some of them your friends), hitting on her. Use your own feelings as a guage for what she may be going through.
Dont set up prearrainged talk times,or when you do call at odd time does she sound distracted or remote? When you do talk does she suddenly stop filling in details about places shes going or things she is doing? This may also go the other way, more details than you are used to getting may be a deversion.
In moments of doubt do NOT ask your friends to spy on her, it will get back to her one way or another. You need to talk to her and tell her what you are thinking and how you are feeling.

And the most important

Do not expect her to do anything you are not willing to do, if you want her to be faithful then you need to be faithful. Dont rationalize behavior that she would consider cheating. The best way to do this is to assume she will hear about everything you are doing.She just might hear, it is amazing how a friend of a friend of hers will say something about what you are doing

06-26-2003, 10:33 PM	#23 (permalink)
pangavan Insane Location: cleveland, OH	This relationship doesnt have to be doomed, but you need to be honest with yourself and keep your eyes open. Putting the relationship on hold will be kind of tricky because she will think you just want to screw around, no matter what you tell her(its a girl thing). Be prepared for both of you to have doubts...you will be in a new, exciting situation with alot more freedom, and she will be lonely with guys,(some of them your friends), hitting on her. Use your own feelings as a guage for what she may be going through. Dont set up prearrainged talk times,or when you do call at odd time does she sound distracted or remote? When you do talk does she suddenly stop filling in details about places shes going or things she is doing? This may also go the other way, more details than you are used to getting may be a deversion. In moments of doubt do NOT ask your friends to spy on her, it will get back to her one way or another. You need to talk to her and tell her what you are thinking and how you are feeling. And the most important Do not expect her to do anything you are not willing to do, if you want her to be faithful then you need to be faithful. Dont rationalize behavior that she would consider cheating. The best way to do this is to assume she will hear about everything you are doing.She just might hear, it is amazing how a friend of a friend of hers will say something about what you are doing __________________ He is, moreover, a frequent drunkard, a glutton, and a patron of ladies who are no better than they should be.