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Talk -- talk talk talk. I know sex is often a taboo subject, and lots of folk like to 'let passion lead them' or somesuch, but that's often bullshit. I'd say, have a nice dinner together in the right setting, let things get very cuddly, romantic, possibly verging on something more, but keep the conversation going, guide it towards talking about sex, and then ask her what she wants - not just "Hey, can I put my hand down your pants?" but something more along the lines of "So, what really gets you going?" or somesuch - try and have an open and honest conversation about sex. About why you like it, how you like it, and more. Having open sexual communication within a relationship can lead to so many wonderful things.
Another tack which I've found some tentative women like is to let them set the pace entirely. When things get to the point where normally you'd dive south, ask them "What do you want?" or somesuch - if you do it in the right way at the right time, it can both be incredibly sexy, and really put them in the driver's seat.
Part of the fun of a relationship is figuring out all of your partner's hotspots - sometimes this is through your own exploration, sometimes they have to tell you, but once you know them, that's when things will really take off.
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