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I just turned 30 and while I'm still technically on the fence about having kids, I've just about fallen off completely onto the side that involves surgical sterilization.
Why no kids?
1. Don't want em
2. Don't want em
3. Don't want em
That's pretty much it - there are lots of other reasons - I am a carrier for a genetic disorder that, while not life-threatening, involves a lot of health issues; I enjoy my life the way it is - good friends, can do pretty much what I want when I want; I enjoy my relationship with my husband exactly the way it is; the words "college tuition" scare the shit out of me; I HATE the idea of being pregnant - eeeyew.
For every one of these reasons there's probably an equally compelling reason to go ahead and have kids, but like I said - the main reason I don't have kids and probably won't is...I just don't want to.
Question for you - do you want to have kids? I can't really tell from your post. On the one hand, it sounds like you kind of want to meet someone and have kids but are too lazy; on the other hand, it sounds like you're feeling pressured by your mom (oy!). The most important factor in the equation is what YOU want. Your mom doesn't have to get up with a baby at 2 in the morning, or deal with chicken pox, or pay for the dreaded college tuition. If she feels disappointed or sad, those are her feelings. Ask yourself what you want (although it's hard to know sometimes), what makes you happy?
I don't buy the bit about being "too lazy," BTW. I may very well be off base but I think if you haven't been trying to find someone, it's because you don't want to, for whatever reason - afraid of rejection, don't want an SO right now, whatever. If you want a relationship, tell your brain to shush and go find one! But if you don't want one right now, don't beat yourself up about it by calling yourself lazy.
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