you poked her she popped you, you are not a virgin. If you're wearing a condom when during intercourse you never ejaculate into a woman (or man). Is that still sex?
and I agree with Greg that sex before marriage (and engagement) is necessary. What if you find out your potential spouse is crap in in the sack? I've had GFs where we got along great but the sexual intimacy just stinks and that makes for a doomed relationship.
and what do you mean by "no action"? You just put your penis in her laid there as still as possible?
Just remember, anal sex is the way to go for women if they want to remain a
Technical Virgin.