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its a huge year...and having done dating that crossed that line...and having gotten screwed by that...i may be bitter as i present my advice.
schUsseln has some good points, to which i would add or reword:
-Do not let this relationship rule your college experience. You are there for other reasons too. One may be growing up in ways that may not support the relationship. Or they might. But you won't know if you put your head in the sand...
-realize that you will probably at times be frustrated with her being in a high school frame of mind-asking parents for permission, etc... College will change your perceptions of what autonomy means. Know that you will have to patient.
watch the maturity differential...i know that's one of the things that tore my relationship apart-i expected her to be taking steps with her life she wasn't ready to make in terms of fixing drama and making it on her own. This was probably realistic for someone in college....but not a high school senior. I try to do these things for her, and before i know it...she's out of my life.
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