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Balaniki · 06-20-2003, 08:07 PM

My mother died this past January. She wasn't feeling well, went to the hospital because she was dehydrated and she had a heart attack and died. I was lucky in that my husband and I visited with her at noon the day she died. We were laughing and joking and she was felling pretty good.

Her death was a major blow to myself and my family. My parents had been married over 50 years.

I spent most of February in a fog. Only went to work half the time, cried ALOT, totally messed up my stomach with too much alcohol and not enough food and felt awful.

My husband was my rock. Without him I don't know if I would have made it through that month.

My biggest advice - go see someone. A counselor, a therapist, a shrink - call them what you will. It made a world of difference for me!

Also helped me realize that I was suffering from depression - and it dated back long before my mother died.

Talk to your husband. Ask him to come to the therapist with you. Help him to understand that the emotional injury to your mind is the same as a serious injury to your body. It will take time to heal.

Good luck.

06-20-2003, 08:07 PM	#20 (permalink)
Balaniki Upright Location: WI	My mother died this past January. She wasn't feeling well, went to the hospital because she was dehydrated and she had a heart attack and died. I was lucky in that my husband and I visited with her at noon the day she died. We were laughing and joking and she was felling pretty good. Her death was a major blow to myself and my family. My parents had been married over 50 years. I spent most of February in a fog. Only went to work half the time, cried ALOT, totally messed up my stomach with too much alcohol and not enough food and felt awful. My husband was my rock. Without him I don't know if I would have made it through that month. My biggest advice - go see someone. A counselor, a therapist, a shrink - call them what you will. It made a world of difference for me! Also helped me realize that I was suffering from depression - and it dated back long before my mother died. Talk to your husband. Ask him to come to the therapist with you. Help him to understand that the emotional injury to your mind is the same as a serious injury to your body. It will take time to heal. Good luck. __________________ Balaniki "Everyone should have something to believe in. I believe you should keep your beliefs to yourself."