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I grew up JW but have been (very) lapsed since I left the house at 17 (I'm 30 now), so I may be a bit out of touch with what they're up to now.
Either she has to lapse or you have to join. Even if you do join, keep in mind that to have a physical realtionship beyond just a public friendship-type hug, you will have to be married or face retribution from the congregation (for minor offences like kissing it would likely only be a stern talking to from the elders... for anything more, likely shunning i.e. 'bad associate' label or 'disfellowshipping').
If she does lapse, or you are thinking of pressing the issue, she may face some serious personal issues (friends and family shunning her depending on her mode of exit).
If you are willing to be friends only... stick with that. Otherwise you are in for a *lot* of trouble.
I try not to be too judgemental of others choices, but I'll at least say that the JWs are *definitely* not my thing and I would strongly advise others to stay away. But to each their own...
Good luck. (although that's a taboo phrase for JWs).
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