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Are you married? Happily?
Yes. Very happy! We're coming up on 1 year of marriage in just over a month, and it's been a fantastic year.
What is your impression of marriage?
It's about give and take. He relies on me and I rely on him. When I cannot take care of myself, he takes care of me. I don't know what I would do without him sometimes. I had norovirus this year, and it was awful. Without him there to make sure I got everything I needed, I wouldn't have gotten well as quickly. A coworker got sick about the same time I did, and had no one to take care of her. It took her two extra days to get well.
Do you think marriage could improve your life, or the opposite?
It has improved my life, absolutely.
Is marriage necessary to obtain the benefits of a long-term monogamous relationship?
We lived together for almost 5 years before we got married. Really, I think if you are in a truly committed relationship, I don't think it's necessary to get the benefits out of it. However, I will say that getting married has saved us a lot of money this year. Our tax return wouldn't have been as good!
Do people view you differently depending on your marital status?
Yes. For some reason, people think I no longer want to babysit, and suddenly, the family pressure to have my own baby is HUGE. Plus, I think it's a mark of adulthood. I've signed a serious, binding contract. It's about as big as buying a house, but not as expensive.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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