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Hi there,

I've recently been thinking a lot about whether or not my relationship should end or if I'm just overreacting to everything going on.

I recently started dating a girl who I met in my dorm at the beginning of last year. We've known each other for about a year now and began dating in April. The problem is that she doesn't live here so is from another country and only comes here for 8 months out of the year (the other 4 she is back home). She left in May to go back home and we both missed each other a lot, we talked every day for hours on end about pretty much everything.

I missed her so much that I went down to visit her at home and she introduced me to her parents and all her friends. We both had a great time and are very attached to each other but when I returned home I felt terrible, worse than I did before I went up to see her.

I miss her now more than I did before and I'm not happy as a result. It feels as if we aren't talking as much as we used to even though we talk every day and she tells me that she loves me and misses me terribly and how much she needs me.

She comes back here for school at the beginning of September but is going away with her family in August so she won't be able to Skype over the computer or text (lack of signal and it's very expensive for the both of us). She has recently told me that she is a very needy person and needs to have communication and physical contact and that not being able to talk to her isn't very boyfriendy even though I can't do anything about her going away and it's too expensive to come back down to visit her (she's an international student).

I told her that it's going to be tough but it's just one more month and that I have to suffer through it as well but we will make it through. She said she knows and just wants me to be there for her for when she returns and that she loves me and will make it through but I just can't help but feel as if she doesn't really love me.

I saw her conversation with a friend over facebook chat (yes I was on her account the time that she had it and it was just because I was paranoid as to how she really feels, I don't ever go into her account this is one of the only times). Anyways, I saw her conversation when it happened and she was telling her friend how not being able to talk isn't very relationshipy and whats the point of being with someone when you can't talk to them. Her friend (who I met) told her that she should be single and would probably be happier that way because she misses me so much now.

I asked her if she told any of her friends about the questions she was having about us and whether or not she would be able to last the rest of the summer and she told me that she had told no one and that it was our business.

This shocked be because I know that she lied straight to me (maybe because she didn't want to hurt me) and when I told her I didn't believe her and to tell me the truth she said she never told anyone but proceeded to log onto her facebook account and change her password (to prevent me from logging in and reading the conversation).

I then proceeded to ask her if she truly loves me and she said yes so I asked her why she is questioning if she can make it. I told her that when I say I love someone it means I will do and go through anything for them no matter how hard it is and she told me she was just being silly and will make it through the summer.

I am concerned that she doesn't love me and is just confused and doesn't know what she wants. I feel like she doesn't want to hurt me or herself because she is a needy person who needs to be in a relationship. The only problem is that since she is an international student she will never have this proper relationship for years because she will never be in one place all the time and neither will her boyfriend.

TL; DR -> I love her very much and just want the summer to end but I don't know if she's mature enough to stay in a relationship with. I feel like she is confused and that if she truly loved me then she wouldn't be questioning us or her love for me to last the rest of the summer.

I am very worried, I don't want to be alone but I also don't want to be unhappy.

Any insight would be great thank you