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I'm a guy, but I have a few thoughts on fetishes in general.
I think the popular perception among psychologists is that that fetishes develop during childhood, before we become fully sexually aware. I remember being 7 or 8, having a variety of children's toys, putting on the pair of police handcuffs (with quick safety release, of course,) when my parents weren't around and almost instantly getting an erection. I'm not 100% sure whether it embedded itself in my memory or whether it just made me aware of a fetish I had years before I understood what sex was, but to this day bondage is arousing to me. It's a bit difficult since I find the humiliation and degradation typically associated with bondage completely unattractive, but it's just a kink I have, nothing I require to get off.
In my experience, I've also come across women with fetishes just like men have -- common things like feet and fat, more obscure stuff like piss and scat (which, for the record, disgusts me,) and more extreme but not harmful stuff like full involvement in BDSM including master/slave relationships. It's part of human development and I firmly believe that the differences have to do with societal attitudes toward male and female sexuality rather than a fundamental difference between men and women.
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