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I've been cheated on before. It's very easy to adopt the silly zero tolerance thing when you're dating in college. It isn't so black and white when you're married (assuming you take the promises related to marriage seriously). My exwife cheated on me while I was away for work for a couple of months. I was furious but still wanted to work through it. I begged her to go to some kind of counseling with me so we could figure out what happened and rebuild a foundation of trust. I don't see playing hide-the-sausage as grounds for throwing a girl under the bus anymore. Maybe it is because I'm older now and see relationships differently. If you, as a couple, can address what she did wrong and accept it as a speed bump in your marriage, you might be able to survive. You can't hold anything back, though. Any resentment or feelings that aren't addressed immediately will become giant throbbing cysts in your soul, robbing you of your ability to trust your partner. Don't carry knives in your back, man. Pull them out and deal with the person in one way or another.
...or...
As our beloved World's King is wont to declare: "Heal thyself, then kill the bitch."
Last edited by Plan9; 07-11-2011 at 09:48 AM..
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