SadDad

From the initial post it would appear there is no hope and nothing can make a difference without the "natural" dad. I refuse to believe this! Can some of you women that have grown up in this situation let me know what made or would have made a difference in your life to prevent or at least mitigate some of the damage. At present I am witnessing all of the negative stuff discussed here and in child development studies. To you who have been there; what would have made a difference in your life? Could someone other than your biological father have made that difference? What works, what doesn't? How do I deal with the overly and sometimes overtly physically aggressive behavior without hurting her or driving her away? Sometimes I think rather than allowing parents adopt kids the kids should adopt the parents. In some situations it might work better that way.