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@James T. Kirk: You pretty much summed it up, and I feel pretty much the same way. Both the pros and cons hit the nail on the head. Luckily, my wife and I are pretty cool when it comes to how often we do it. Where we live, there aren't any Swingers clubs (that we know of), so any extramarital fun is usually planned weeks in advance. This pretty much means that we don't get to do it any more than once a month, and we're both pretty cool with that.
@chinese crested: What you described is not the result for every family where the parents are Swingers. In fact, your description is certainly an aberration from the norm. If things aren't handled responsibly with regards to children, there's certainly a risk of them learning or doing something like you described, but that's pretty much the story with ANYTHING regarding children.
When we do have kids, we will never swing with them at home, and we certainly won't be exposing our kids to anything sexual. If, for some reason, they do get accidentally exposed to our lifestyle or anything else sexual, we'd be sure to take a responsible approach to teaching our kids and explaining to them what they just saw at a level appropriate to their age. My wife follows several sexual therapists very closely (the study of sex and sexual behavior is a topic that she is academically interested in), and she already has several plans laid out with regards to how we will raise our children and how to handle educating them about sexuality in a way that is responsible and teaches responsible behavior, but also won't screw them up the way society does now, with it's view of sex.
Society's view being: "Sex is bad! No sex until marriage! Pleasure is wrong and you should be ashamed of yourself!" The past generation or two of raising kids on that particular message is responsible for the sharp rise in Teen Pregnancy and STD's, as well as many of the sexual disfunctions that people suffer from nowadays. But that's a topic for a different day.
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