Originally Posted by Poetry

Dump her.

Not because she didn't fulfill your "fetish" wish, but because of how she responded. She has no respect for you or your desires. She has, according to your description, the upper hand in the relationship.

Even if you two were on equal footing, she would have not reacted the way she did.

I mean, you took the time and overcame the hurdle of your shyness and discomfort in order to communicate to her something very important to you and she basically spit on you in response. Her actions were along the lines of women who catch their boyfriends masturbating and say, "Oh, no, you are not doing that in this relationship".

She should not be dictating the terms of your sex life, and that's what she just did.

Leave her and find someone who respects you and your needs, or at least is willing to actually discuss them. Christ.