chinese crested

A gentleman would not go rummaging in a ladys knicker drawer when her back is turned. It wasnt an accident on your part, you were being an opportunist. You are guilty of doing a bad thing in the present - so she made a few mistakes in her past - who goes to the grave with none of those on their road in life?
What she had on her computer was old stuff - not present stuff. You know what - most women dont like to brag to men about their bridget jones/period pants. Its not something you would really want toknow about, and they are not items most men would wish to inspect - you, of course, may be different.
You certainly have a problem with trust, and she deserves to know about it - especially as you say you are obsessive and it is affecting the relationship. She probably knows it isnt in balance, and may well be wondering what she has done wrong. Nothing. Ask for forgiveness.

'Poetry - let me ask you a question. Please don't dismiss it and properly think it about it, if you would. You say you've kept a large part of your correspondance from previous partners...Fair enough, but how would you react if your partner suddenly came to you all upset and depressed, because he'd found, read, and pored over them? Would you tell him to shut up because it's private, would you ignore it? Would you listen to him and try to work things out? Would you apologise (I get the feeling i'm going to get shot down here, but i'm simply being hypothetical), would you be angry? The reason I ask is because I'm considering whether I should tell my girlfriend or not. It would be good to hear a women's perspective, and how you'd possibly react.'


I have kept many of mine - from the days when we used proper ink and paper. To me - I dont drag them out and pour through them, but sometimes - like when I was moving house - I came across a couple of old love letter - and it was sweet, to remember myself as seen through the eyes of someone at the time who cared for me and I for them. I keep letters from friend and family. Sometimes a letter talks about a shared day out or other experience, about what is going on in life andin the world. They are things that make me smile - not things I clutch to my heart or would rush to save in event of a house fire.
I would, personaly, be pissed that you had invaded my privacy, and I would think you were being a bit of a silly boy for being jealouse of memories of days long past that are just sat there undisturbed. If I loved you, I would forgive you because heart is dumb isnt it so no choice. I would probably invest in a foot locker with lock to keep private things in - or anything I wanted to - and if one day I came home andfound crow bar marks on it - you would regret the day you met me. Forgiveness has boundaries - you dont put up with a repeat offending wife beater - unless you are uncommonly low in yourself.