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It makes sense that you want your own experience base and references so you can be truly Ker-Rough with him rather than doing it by numbers he has to call. Also that you and he should have times and places to actively discuss, which are not going to significantly interrupt the flow of your lovemaking.
An additional source is the Bondage/SM section in Literotica.com. These short stories and thumbnail sketches of scenarios, activities and mind-sets, a mixed bag of quality from erotic to plain rot, may serve as sticks and carrots, to inspire and irritate you into developing your own inventory of possibilities.
Also, is it just degradation and simple 'ouch' he's into, or does his preference include entering the physical pain/pleasure ambiguity zone? If the latter, then self-exploration will bring you up to speed. Use your own fingernails/hair brush/green scourer etc on and around your own nipples/shoulders etc, to check the graded differences between simple 'Ouch' to 'Mmm ... that's interesting', to 'Well! My goodness, that IS interesting.'
Some possibilities will attract you more or less than others, and when you have screened them for safety [cf Poetry's post], those which fit what you've reason to believe he might like, and which are acceptable/enjoyable to you, can be a basis for further fantasising on your part, to explore mixing and integrating your current possibilities with the new. For the more the new flows from the familiar, the more seamless it will be when you are together.
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