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Originally Posted by xenonman
I stand by my advice about the need to keep a close eye on sex partners.
It may not be the nicest thing to have to do, but I'm afraid it's absolutely necessary.
Most likely, she hasn't told you everything about her past, particularly if there are sex partners that she's still seeing.
YES, that does happen.
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Having your eyes open is different than secretly invading someone's privacy. Put the shoe on the other foot.
As for sex partners, hell yeah. Go get tested together instead of taking someone's word for something like that. There's no reason to keep an eye out, get the facts. But if you're beyond that and considering commitment in the relationship, the foundation of trust is crucial.
And I do realize, OCM, that stuff happens. I'm sorry it happened to you and it will happen sometimes. But that doesn't mean you've started all other relationships snooping and mistrusting, does it?