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Spacehog · 04-29-2011, 06:12 AM

Now, obviously this is going to be biased from my point of view, but I'll try and tell both sides of the story. Also, I'm long winded so I apologize for the wall of text ahead of you upfront.

My girl was the babysitters daughter back in elementary school. Ran into her again about six months ago, and we've been dating ever since save 2 weeks that I broke up with her recently, and just got back together because...well she was sitting on my doorstep waiting for me to wake up one morning. Kinda stalkerish, but I got the message. She missed me. Plus my brother caught us "making up" seeing as I moved in back home for a bit after we broke up, so I couldn't really tell her no after that.

So six moths in and, I'm too jealous as per her and her family, she's too childish from my point of view. You guys tell me what you think. I'm 29 and she's 25 btw.

As for jealousy keep in mind, my ex before her wore a see through shirt to work at a restaurant one halloween, and her best friend was a guy. I never once got upset at her for what she wore, or having a guy as a friend because she handled herself appropriately IMO. It was a personality thing that my current girl lacks, so my girl now can't get away with the things my ex could in my eyes because to me she's too immature, and doesn't realize the full context of the things she does.

My girl now admittedly grew up with a brain tumor. She has always been in and out of the hospital, and constantly babied to some extent. She at 24 (remember she's 25 now) finally got out on her own and was able to be free so to speak. So yes, she's doing now at 25 what most people do from 18 to 21.

She doesn't have any acquaintances. Everyone she knows is either a friend, or extended family. Basically the ones she calls family are what most people would call friends. She stays on the phone and facebook constantly, and always has to be in contact with someone. I think she is attention starved as her family in my eyes uses her, but that isn't relevant to this, and she denies that she craves attention.

Her whole wardrobe is halter tops. With B cups she manages to show cleavage and/or (usually and) bra everyday no matter what shirt she is wearing. She is constantly talking to some guy or another that she is "friends" with, and at various times will hang out at their house, or they have spent the night at hers. Now, to be fair her brother lives with her and they were just as much spending the night with her brother as with her.

My problem isn't so much that she has guy friends or wears halter tops. It's that like I said, I don't think she has the mentality to fully grasp the situations she puts herself into, or the perceptions that other guys are going to have if she's showing bra and being that friendly.

I've mentioned that her actions were disrespectful to me, and our relationship, but she blows it off by getting mad and saying that I'm calling her a slut which isn't my intention. I just want her to realize that if she keeps begging for attention so to speak she's increasing her chances of getting the kind of attention she's not gonna want if you catch my meaning.

So, honest opinion from you.

Which of us is being childish? Am I just being overly jealous, or are we both being childish?

04-29-2011, 06:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
Spacehog Upright Location: North Carolina	Childish girlfriend, or Childish me? opinions Now, obviously this is going to be biased from my point of view, but I'll try and tell both sides of the story. Also, I'm long winded so I apologize for the wall of text ahead of you upfront. My girl was the babysitters daughter back in elementary school. Ran into her again about six months ago, and we've been dating ever since save 2 weeks that I broke up with her recently, and just got back together because...well she was sitting on my doorstep waiting for me to wake up one morning. Kinda stalkerish, but I got the message. She missed me. Plus my brother caught us "making up" seeing as I moved in back home for a bit after we broke up, so I couldn't really tell her no after that. So six moths in and, I'm too jealous as per her and her family, she's too childish from my point of view. You guys tell me what you think. I'm 29 and she's 25 btw. As for jealousy keep in mind, my ex before her wore a see through shirt to work at a restaurant one halloween, and her best friend was a guy. I never once got upset at her for what she wore, or having a guy as a friend because she handled herself appropriately IMO. It was a personality thing that my current girl lacks, so my girl now can't get away with the things my ex could in my eyes because to me she's too immature, and doesn't realize the full context of the things she does. My girl now admittedly grew up with a brain tumor. She has always been in and out of the hospital, and constantly babied to some extent. She at 24 (remember she's 25 now) finally got out on her own and was able to be free so to speak. So yes, she's doing now at 25 what most people do from 18 to 21. She doesn't have any acquaintances. Everyone she knows is either a friend, or extended family. Basically the ones she calls family are what most people would call friends. She stays on the phone and facebook constantly, and always has to be in contact with someone. I think she is attention starved as her family in my eyes uses her, but that isn't relevant to this, and she denies that she craves attention. Her whole wardrobe is halter tops. With B cups she manages to show cleavage and/or (usually and) bra everyday no matter what shirt she is wearing. She is constantly talking to some guy or another that she is "friends" with, and at various times will hang out at their house, or they have spent the night at hers. Now, to be fair her brother lives with her and they were just as much spending the night with her brother as with her. My problem isn't so much that she has guy friends or wears halter tops. It's that like I said, I don't think she has the mentality to fully grasp the situations she puts herself into, or the perceptions that other guys are going to have if she's showing bra and being that friendly. I've mentioned that her actions were disrespectful to me, and our relationship, but she blows it off by getting mad and saying that I'm calling her a slut which isn't my intention. I just want her to realize that if she keeps begging for attention so to speak she's increasing her chances of getting the kind of attention she's not gonna want if you catch my meaning. So, honest opinion from you. Which of us is being childish? Am I just being overly jealous, or are we both being childish?