If they are unreachable and it is virtually impossible for you to somehow make up for your past mistakes directly, you can deal with the karma indirectly. Consider the nature of your mistakes and then consider what the opposite action would be. Take the bad, and realize what good neutralizes it. By doing these actions for yourself and for others, you will work on your existing karma.
For example, if you stole from someone but cannot reach them to give back to them, consider donating to charities, giving to those in need.
If you physically hurt someone, practice being nonviolent in every way towards yourself and to others. Consider again giving to charities, this time to those who work with battered women and children.
There are many ways to work with your karma without necessarily dealing with those you have hurt in the past. The key is to discover your compassion and to work on your past ignorance.
Do this towards yourself first and then expand it towards others----this can be both towards those close to you and to complete strangers, indeed it should.
Above all else, you must learn to forgive yourself. Without this forgiveness, the karma will remain. Self-compassion is tied to compassion for others.
[Edit: Yeah, so I just realized the OP was banned. No problem, these responses are for the benefit of anyone who can read them!]
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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön
Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot
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