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I'll bite.
I cheated once. On a girl that loved me much more than I loved her. She was a good girl.
After I cheated, I was really unhappy with myself and had a long, long conversation with a friend.
For me it basically boils down to a desire to reach higher goals--I want a family. I want a wife that loves me. I want to know that I can resist temptation and that I did what was right by my wife. I want to be honorable, and I want to set a good example for my future kids. Every time I get the desire to be a reckless youth and get in to the 'hunt' again, I remind myself of my higher goals, and I really ask myself if one night of pleasure is really worth giving up my life goal of having a strong family.
I also think about how much it hurt when I've been cheated on, and how much I hurt the ex that I cheated on--the guilt still sometimes plagues me.
If a really attractive girl threw herself at me--I would honestly have a hard time resisting. But, my aspiration for a good family makes me stay away from potentially compromising situations (this...really attractive...medical student was grinding on me...who I've had a crush on for years...but I thanked her for the dance and went to drink beers with my friend...I think it was the right choice.)
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