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Originally Posted by levite
If one is not able to make such a commitment, one should not get married, and should have only very informal relationships. No harm, no foul. But if one does make such a commitment, one should stick to it. I'm not saying it always has to be "until death do us part," but I think that having a formalized or de facto long-term committed monogamous relationship means that you have the integrity to be honest; and if honesty requires that you end the relationship, you do so, and face the consequences like a mature adult.
Which is odd, because almost all the guys I know who are faithful to their partners didn't have to cheat and suffer the consequences. They just didn't cheat-- at least not after middle school, or maybe high school at the latest, and most of them not at all.
They just knew that part of being a man is to man up to situations, and face them head-on. Part of being a man is having integrity and honor: a man's word means something. He doesn't break it lightly, he deals straight with everyone. And a man should know that it's more important for people to know you're honest than for people to wrongly think you're a saint.
Call me old-fashioned if you like, but I really believe that. And so do most of the guys I'm friends with.
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I guess I have had some bad experiences and have known MANY men to cheat. Although many would disagree that you can be a cheater and a "nice guy" these men seem happy in their marriage and basically kind and decent human beings. They cheat with women who don't necessarily want a "full time relationship" but want someone to have sex with. They admit that they do not want to "hurt their wives" and of course, many think they just won't get caught therefore not thinking of the consequences.
So far the answers seem to be that it doesn't matter what type of situation a man is faced with, there are men out there who won't cheat - period.
LunarEclipse