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Originally Posted by levite
Sorry if that seems strong, but I believe quite a lot in this kind of relationship ethics.
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I don't think anyone here would disagree with the ethics underlying your post but the simple truth is, and I do believe this to be the reason as to why so many cheat, relationships are simply much more complicated and dynamic than that.
Surely you can imagine it as a hell of a lot more than a matter of common courtesy when you consider that leaving to sleep around or be with someone else can and often does entail (to name only a few) losing your entire social circle, being demonized in the eyes of those you respect and admire, being seen as a monster by your children, a shitstorm of a legal troubles, etc.
I'm not buying the dichotomy put forward in the initial post between faithful and cheating men - especially since almost all of the guys I know who are now faithful to their partners had to cheat and suffer the consequences enough times to know not to fuck things up.
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So I am basically asking if men don’t cheat only because they can’t. If they were younger, or better looking and had the opportunity I think most men would cheat. What do you think?
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Paying for sex is easy enough - anyone can cheat. There are in fact, people out there who are totally faithful as a matter of choice entirely. I think it simply a matter of knowing what you really want and avoiding the sorts of situations that could lead to cheating.