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Originally Posted by LunarEclipse
Just read a 2008 interview in Newsweek with Gary Neuman (family counselor, rabbi) who did a two-year study of 100 men who had sexual affairs and 100 men who were faithful. His book is "The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do To Prevent It."
Whenever I read a “study” or survey about cheating men I always want more detail on the men surveyed. How old, how long married, how attractive .. I think this makes a difference.
I cant’ help but wonder if the faithful men have had an opportunity to cheat? It’s always easy to say I would never cheat until you are actually faced with the choice.
Are faithful men less attractive on the whole then the men who did cheat?
So I am basically asking if men don’t cheat only because they can’t. If they were younger, or better looking and had the opportunity I think most men would cheat. What do you think?
p.s. I’m not looking for a moral discussion on people’s opinions about cheating.
LunarEclipse.
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Well, I can't speak for others, but I have never cheated, in any relationship that I've been in. I have had, to my recollection, four direct opportunities to do so, and have been somewhat tempted in two of those instances, but have never actually done it. Nor would I.
I personally just think that monogamous relationships are a matter of honor and integrity. If you really feel like you can't live without fucking someone else, fine: you break up with your partner, like a mature, grown-up human being, and then you go shack up. But no one is unable to have the simple common courtesy to tell your partner that it's over before screwing someone else.
I don't think it's a matter of how young and good-looking you are, or how much sex you could get. It's simply a matter of principle. That's why we have break-ups and divorces. So people don't have to lie and betray others.
Sorry if that seems strong, but I believe quite a lot in this kind of relationship ethics.